Happy Mother's Day!

Some days I miss my mother, Lanakila.  Here's a photo of her. Wasn't she beautiful? :)  I regret not knowing 

her better.  I wish I would have asked more questions... talked to her more... learned more about my Hawaiian roots.  I wish I were close to her siblings.  I am definitely looking forward to seeing her again in Heaven!  What a glorious day it will be to see my Savior, Jesus, and all of my loved ones that have gone on before us.  I hope I get the chance to talk with her more about our family.

I am certainly grateful and thankful that God sent me my sister/mom, Loni Dobbins.  She raised my sister & I even when she didn't birth us and didn't have to.  She's loves us unconditionally, she's sacrificed so much for us... for her family.  She's my rock, she's my mom, she's my best friend!  I'm so grateful to have her!  I love her more than words can say.  I couldn't have asked for a better mom and home to grow up in. She and my dad taught me to love as Christ loved. They built my foundation of faith.  And for that alone, I could never thank them enough!

I'm also blessed to be the Mommy to 4 beautiful children.  Taylor (15), Kiara (12), Bella (5) and Alyssa (3).  I am honored that God saw me fit to raise these beauties!  I love them with all my heart.  I pray that they will always know how much my heart beats for them.  

So ready for VACATION

Vacation Countdown Clock Generator


Our family vacation cannot get here sooner! I am so ready to hit the beach for a week and do ABSOLUTELY nothing! Lol! 


Yes, I know I have 4 kids. Yes, I know it's  Memorial Day week when we will be there & it's probably going to be crazy packed. Yes, I know the kids are going to want to do this and do that. But I promise you this... I WILL REST! Daggummit.


Last year we went to Disney World. See... here we are. Aren't we a beautiful family?! Yes, I know.  (p.s. I do adore our shirts. Bought the iron on transfers from Esty - however, I would totally recommend the embroidered versions instead. Our shirts didn't hold up well after the first wash.)

And while Disney World was a great trip and we made TONS of memories (especially being with PawPaw! Gah- I miss him terribly!)... I DO NOT want a busy vacation this year.  I felt like I needed a vacation from our vacation when we got back from Disney. Whew! I have informed my husband, my sister & parents - who are also going to Daytona with us this year - that I do not want any agenda for our vacation. I want to go and be as lazy as possible. Haha! 


Between church/ministry, work, home life, kids, kids sports, pets, etc. - this Mama is tired and deserves a break!


So watch out Daytona Beach... Mama's coming to town... to rest. Ha! Therefore you probably need not watch out... just make sure there's a spot on the beach for me... and plenty of sun... and no sand fleas. Thank you. That is all.

<3 Sonya 

I Can’t Think Straight!

Seriously, some days... okay, who am I kidding EVERY DAY I feel like this... I can't think straight! Today is really one of those days. I received an email devotion from Proverbs 31 Ministries today that spoke right to me! Thank you Lord. :)  Read about it HERE. Enjoy!

<3 Sonya

We made it passed the Seven Year Itch! {fist pump}

Today Chris and I celebrate 7 years of marriage! :) I believe that Chris and I have a good healthy marriage. Don't get me wrong, it definitely has had it's ups and downs just like any other marriage.  But I believe the #1 reason our marriage stays strong and healthy is our relationship with & love for Jesus Christ.  We may not always say the right thing to each other, do the right things, make the right decisions... but at the center of our love for each other is our love for God.  I can honestly say that God is what holds this marriage together. 
I was blessed to meet Chris "again" for the first time in October of 2004. It's funny, our families actually grew up together. In fact, his Dad & brothers were great friends with my Dad & his brothers.  Chris' grandpa would bring him to my Dad's church when he was younger. I remember making fun of him because he never spoke to anyone. We also went to the same high school, but we never spoke to each other. He was a Freshman and I was a Senior.  Seriously? Why would I talk to him, right? Lol!!  It's funny how God has our life in his hands and he molds it for us, even when we can't see it? 
Without giving all the details, our paths were brought together by very broken roads. Chris' first wife passed away from Leukemia and I had a failed marriage with my 1st daughter's father. When Chris & I were "brought together" we never would have dreamed that we would change the way we looked at each other and quickly fall in love.
I'm so thankful that I have a strong man of God to walk with me in this life. Chris prays for and lifts our family up to God everyday. He helps me when I'm weak. He tells me I'm beautiful when I'm feeling no where near that. He is an amazing father to our kids. He puts me and our family before himself. He really does complete me. 


I may not know it all, have never claimed to. But this it what works for us. Being believers in Christ, Chris & I believe & live by this order for our life, for our family. 
#1 - God. He HAS to be the center of life! If you love God with all of your heart, have a real relationship with Him, he will lead you & keep you. Relationships don't come from visiting church every now and then... or even being faithful to every Sunday & Wednesday service. A real relationship with God takes time and effort. Spend time in his Word. Know him. Love him. 
#2 - Your spouse. Only comes 2nd to Christ. Love your spouse. Honor your spouse. Respect your spouse. Encourage & lift them up in prayer daily. Tell them everyday in words and in your actions just how much they mean to you. Don't neglect the little things that made you first fall in love with them. Do not allow any form of temptation come between you and your relationship with your spouse. This includes your job, the success of your job, ministry, friends... not even your kids! Yes, you LOVE your kids, but they do not come before your spouse.
#3 - Family.  I love my kids. I do. So much some times that it hurts. I hurt when they hurt, I'm happy when they are happy. I support & participate in the things that interest them. My children light up my life. I try to tell my kids multiple times a day how much I love them so they will never forget! Family also includes your mom, dad, sister, brother, cousin, and so on. Love the family that God has given you. Whether born into and blessed into, LOVE your family. 
#4 - Ministry. Growing up a PK (preacher's kid) sometimes you grow hard-hearted towards ministry. You think the ministry means more to your parents than you do. Ministry is what we as believers are all called to do. The Bible tells us that we are to go into all of the nations and preach the gospel. It is definitely an important piece of the puzzle to winning lost souls to the kingdom of God. While doing the ministry though, we cannot forsake the first 3 steps above. Ministry is apart of Chris, it's a part of me. But, it does not and cannot overcome us. 
And that's it... everything else after #4 can fall into line how ever they come. Love God, Love your spouse, Love your family, and Love the ministry that God has placed you in.


I love you CHRISTOPHER WILEY. I am so thankful to have you and honored to be your wife of seven years and MANY more to come!
<3 Sonya

 

Fight Like A Girl

So... here I am again...   I. HATE. CANCER.


Kiara (my oldest daughter) came home a couple of days ago talking about a little girl she knows from school that has cancer, Mary Keith.  Kiara talked about how all of her friends are doing different things to help raise awareness for their friend.  Today, practically everyone in the school wore shorts with crazy knee socks and sneakers because that was one of Mary's favorite outfits to wear.  And also today the  White House Dixie Youth/USFA Baseball and Softball and Doug's BP Gas Station in White House, TN began selling shirts donated by Think Ink.  

The shirts are only $10 and all proceeds will go to Mary and her family.  While I don't know this family personally, I have so proud of our community for coming together for this family.  I hear that News Channel 5 will be interviewing her on tomorrow and that News Channel 2 will be at the WH City Park for the Opening Night Parade.  Everyone will be there wearing their shirts in honor of Mary. :) 
Continuing to lift Mary and her family up to the Father. I know that he is the only one we can turn to.


(Read here for another article on Mary's story)


I also saw a post today from a friend who's grandfather was told today that he has cancer and that it is terminal.  So sad to hear. Praying for that family! 


Cancer is awful.  I pray that one day VERY soon they will find a cure for this horrible disease that seems to have no mercy on anyone.  I am praying for these 2 and many others who are in the fight of their life to beat this STUPID disease called cancer.


The pain of my father in law's death and loss to cancer is still very fresh in my mind.  I think about him often throughout the day.  He wasn't perfect (none of us are) but he LOVED his family and he knew how to show it.  And I see so much of him in my husband.  I continue to pray for God's peace and comfort for my husband, my mother in law and our whole family.  Father, I pray that you wrap us in your arms. AMEN!

The day after

We buried my father in law yesterday.  Seemed so surreal.  Couldn't have asked for a more beautiful day though.  Everything was just as he wanted it. 


I woke up this morning hoping that the last few days we just walked through were all just a dream... then reality hit me.  Time to get up and try to get back to some kind of normal routine... for my kids' sake.  


My heart still aches.  I miss my father in law tremendously.  I hurt... for my husband, my kids, for my mother in law, my sisters in law, Grandma and all of our family and friends that were so close to him.  While I am thankful that Larry is no longer hurting, not in any pain any longer... I still wish he were here with us. 


I am SO thankful to our wonderful family and friends that have been pitching in and helping us over the last few weeks.  My sister, Maryann, for watching my babies several times for us, just so that we could have a break.  Feeding them and taking them places.  She was a lifesaver! :)  My mom & dad, who called or texted me pretty much daily to lift me up and just check on me!  I love them!!  For coordinating food for the family and also helping with the kids.  They are my rocks!  Always there for me!  For my pastors, Todd & Rachel, and our church family for being there for us. For bringing food to our family and checking up on us daily.  We are so blessed to have them as our pastors & friends.  Emily, for skipping school for us to watch my girls. ;) I love you girl. Thanks for always being available to look after them.  And there are so many others!  THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts.  Your kind words, your prayers, the wonderful food you prepared for us or went and picked up for us at the last minute -Aunt Kellye ;)... will never be in vain!  Our father above sees the love you shared and your reward will be great.  Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!


Gotta get my Wife & Mommy cap on and get this crazy messy house in order.  Seems like it hasn't been touched in over 3 weeks.  Oh, and some groceries.  Gotta go get some groceries.  Don't remember the last time I let us run out of milk.  Lol!  I did manage to get some laundry washed... washed, not put up.  Lol!  Currently my couch is housing our clean laundry. And that's ok, for now! At least it's clean.  


Praying for the next days, months and years that the emotions of not having our "PawPaw" come back around.  Praying for God's continued strength.

Trusting God in tough times

Feb. 27th... that's the day we got the news from hospice that my father-in-law only had 2 more weeks. 


I. HATE. CANCER.


We have spent more time with him these last few days than ever before.  Trying to soak up every last minute that God gives us with him.  He's been sick for some time now. Really, God has spared his life for about 20 years now.  He's lived through a bike accident, lymphoma cancer, hepatitis C, heart surgery, kidney cancer, just to name a few.  Probably even more things that I don't even know about. God's hand has surely been on his life.  I hurt watching him suffer.  Some days (especially today) just lying there, lifeless.  I hate seeing my husband so hurt by this.  Sometimes... life seems so unfair.  My faith HAS to be stronger than my fear!! I know that our prayers are heard.  I know that God CAN heal him.  What I don't understand is Why?  Why hasn't he healed him from this, what seems to be the last & final battle.  I don't mean to question him.  I know I shouldn't, but it is my flesh.  That's why I say, my faith has to be stronger.  My faith has to know that God is sovereign and he only is in control.  I can't go on my feelings.  God I trust you!   


I have been thinking of all of the wonderful memories that we have made with Larry, or PawPaw, as my kids affectionately call him. :)  We have taken vacations to the beach, to museums, water parks, watched him drive a Nascar, took him sky-diving and last year we went to Disney World!  I will never forget the times that we have spent with him.  Birthdays, going out to dinner, or just hanging out at the house with them... they will forever be embedded in my memories.  And I have all the pictures to help me remember too!  I am so blessed and honor to have been married into this family.  He is an amazing father, wonderful grandfather and one of the hardest working men I have ever known.  


Today, March 21st and he is still here with us today. See, God did give us more time with him than even hospice gave us.  I watched this morning while Sharon (his wife) fed him breakfast. Then sat next to him on the bed.  With as much love as anyone could have for another person, she wrapped her arm around his & talked to him.  He doesn't respond a lot.  But he knows she is there.  Their love, I know, has got him through this far.  Larry wanted to be at home through this all.  He wants to die at home.  Sharon is so strong!  I know she is hurting so much, but she is so strong right now.  


Then I watched my husband sit down next to him.  I'm amazed how much they favor. :)  I see so much of Larry in Chris.  Not just in physical looks, but they have a lot of the same mannerisms.  My husband put his arm around his dad and gave him a hug.  Wow.  I see the love he has for him, and the hurt this is causing in him also.  My heart breaks for him.  


Then again, Amanda (one of Larry's daughters) also sat next down next to him.  She's only 20.  Seems so unfair to have to lose a father at that age.  She also takes after Larry so much.  She loves to fish and hunt and ride 4-wheelers.  She is definitely a "Daddy's girl." :)


Hospice came in this morning.  Says we are looking at the end stages.  That Larry is in the "transitional" stage into death.  Wow, what a statement to have to swallow.  Hearing it first hand from her, instead second hand from my husband seemed to hit me a lot harder today.  


God, my heart cries out to you!  YOU ARE GOD!  Take the pain away from him Lord.  Please be our comfort through this time God.


I trust you God.

 

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